Entry: "Cherish the Day"
One of the things that puzzles me is how several people that I have talked to recently mentioned to me that they can't understand why I am so cheerful and full of joyful laughter after the terrible tragedy that I suffered back in July. What I can't understand is how they would even find it so amazing or unlikely that I would be in such a state of mind. Perhaps it is because they have no idea how strong a brother I am. Sure I still have my days and moments when I return to that time to grieve again, when I sit and think of what I had and what I lost, but I do not let it rule my mind or my thoughts. Even though at times I realize that I lost an immeasurable treasure when my wife was taken from me so suddenly, I also understand that God has brought me through this with an even stronger sense of purpose and direction than I ever possessed before. I am on a joyful mission to finish what God has for me in this life. Before my accident I used to fear the unknown, I used to not want to discuss the finality of death and what happens when you die. Too unpleasant, too spooky to talk about is what I used to say back then.
Let me share something with you if I may so I can perhaps shed a little light on to why I feel the way that I do about being alive or dead...Immediately after my accident the firefighters and paramedics had extracted me from the mangled wreckage of my car and laid me on the sidewalk in front of my daughter who herself was injured, a multitude of gawking spectators and passing motorists and were feverishly working on me...You see, in addition to the other extensive and quite serious injuries I had suffered, my heart had stopped beating on the first of several occasions and they were desperately trying to revive me before attempting to transport me to the emergency room. Although I was not conscious during that time and completely unawares of all that was going on around me then, it is now that I can fully appreciate the gift of being alive, for indeed it is a gift to us all. Too often we take our very lives for granted, acting and living out our lives as if it's all about us... as if tomorrow is guaranteed to be here when we drop off to sleep. I know better now. A good while ago I used to take my life and the circumstances that made up my life for granted to a certain degree. Although I wasn’t wealthy I wasn’t poor either and led a somewhat comfortable existence without having to worry about whether or not I would have something to eat the next day or whether or not I had a roof over my head or even a steady job. I had fallen victim to the “here today, here tomorrow” syndrome that most of us fall victim to without even realizing it. Meaning too many of us act as if we are indeed going to live forever, sort of like since I am here today therefore no doubt I will be here tomorrow, a sure thing not to be denied. It is not too often that most of us will stop as we go about our daily lives to ponder what comes next in the event the “unthinkable” should befall us or one of our loved ones. No I’m not trying to lecture or preach to you all but just wanted to remind my dearest friends that life is too short to virtually ignore our very own destiny. Take stock in the person who you are today and think about if that person is the person who you were meant to be. We are all here on earth to fulfill a divine purpose, to grow into the complete mortal beings that God intended before we take the next step in the journey of our souls. Don’t let life catch you unprepared for what comes next…you know what you need to do to attain completeness for your spirit. Don’t say “Oh I’ll worry about that tomorrow or another day”. My accident and subsequent brush with death brought it all home for me and made me realize how precious my own existence is while at the same time it put everything in focus for me. Today I celebrate life and what being alive means to me. I thank God everyday for just being able to write this, for being able to breathe unimpaired, for being able to walk without pain, for having a logical working mind and memory, for not being bitter or angry over what happened to me, indeed even for being able to count all of you as friends in my life. Take an honest look at yourself and your circumstances today and make any corrections that need to be made…do it for yourself if no one else. The way I see it, today is just one more joyful day for me as I continue on my journey and get ready for what He has prepared for me. And remember as I do now everyday…you are loved unconditionally!
21 brothers and sisters helped me to understand.
on Sunday, April 9th, 2006 @ 08:55 PM EST
It's good to have you here reminding us of all of these things that we too easily forget. Thanks. (posted after my other comment).
on Sunday, February 12th, 2006 @ 08:13 PM EST
Thanks for the reminder.
on Thursday, February 9th, 2006 @ 12:34 PM EST
You are most welcome Greggy. If I had a link to share I certainly would. I don't blog but I love to read them when I have down time. Maybe one day I'll have the time to start one of my own . Until then I'll continue to peek in and say hello.
on Thursday, February 2nd, 2006 @ 07:47 PM EST
love the site greggy! its amazing! i LOVE when the sky is this color...it makes you feel so good so dreamy. Its good to hear your happy. Have a great weekend!
on Sunday, January 29th, 2006 @ 08:22 PM EST
Ah, your interest in life is delicate and beautiful. You think some deep, soulful thoughts. May you see many more smiles and rainbows ((((Big hug))))
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." * Anaïs Nin
(((((Bigger hug in return))))) Thanks Meadow. I so very much appreciate the nuggets of positivity you always leave for me, indeed they soothe my soul.
on Friday, January 27th, 2006 @ 08:32 AM EST
Greggy so glad to see you blogging! What a great message truly blessed my day!
Yes Myrah it is so nice to be able to return to blogging again, and even though I don't blog no where near as much as before it still allows me to maintain a needed connection with all my loved ones. I'm glad that I was able to touch someone in a positive way with what I wrote...really that is all that a brother could ask for. Take care dear!
on Thursday, January 26th, 2006 @ 10:16 AM EST
late as usual..
but here none the less.
You have my heart as you know all to well..
In you I get strength when I don't have any of my own..
You will forever be my greatest point of faith...
Through you I know I can believe.. Since before you I was not so sure.
Love you Greg..
And I always will....
Dear...You are never late, but always on time in my world! :o)
As I mentioned to you earlier, you are so necessary to me, for it is by the continual support and comfort you offer me that enables me to nourish my emotions, my soul and even my spirit and helps me to return to normalcy. I love you too Chele, unconditionally and always will. Thank you for always being there for me when I need to regain my strength and focus, you are so loved.
on Wednesday, January 25th, 2006 @ 09:21 PM EST
Wow, do they expect you to morn forever? You are the example of a brotha I need to become. I hope, pray, I won't get there in the shadow of a tragedy, but that I'll get there sometime soon. Thanks for the inspiration
Brother Buck! You are too kind with your comments. It is I who aspires to become the established artist like you have achieved. I very much understand however your comments about arriving in my circumstances via the shadow of tragedy but remember it is through trials and tribulations that we find our greatest strengths. Thanks for stopping by my friend!
on Wednesday, January 25th, 2006 @ 05:52 PM EST
well i'm just more than happy to see you're 'moving on' as good as you can and embracing life, cuz that's who you are greggy! i love you!
*grinning from ear to ear* Butterfly...Embracing life and what He has for me is the only way to go...Thanks for always being there for me when I need a shoulder to lean on! Plus you already knows I loves you too, need I say more? :o)
on Wednesday, January 25th, 2006 @ 05:00 PM EST
This is one of the most beautiful blogs, because you took the time to tell us things that we need to know to enrich our lives. And for that, I sincerely say thank you.
Awww shucks Aziza...you done gone and made a brother blush! Well at least when I looked in the mirror it looked like it...unless those new 60 watt "natural sunlight" bulbs I just bought are tricking a brother! :o) Thanks all the same for enriching us with the wisdom you post on your site also!
on Wednesday, January 25th, 2006 @ 01:32 PM EST
Thank you for reminding me what this life is all about. God bless you.
Thank you for blessing me with a visit my dear! I've seen your name on someone's site before and would love to pay you a visit in return, perhaps you'll share with me a link to find your garden, yes? In any event, have a fabulous today and tomorrow!
on Wednesday, January 25th, 2006 @ 01:28 PM EST
cherish the day is one of my most favorite sade songs...
As it is one of mines also! Actually her entire "Lovers Rock" CD has a permanent rotation spot on my IPOD. Thanks for blessing me with your presence here Courtney!
on Tuesday, January 24th, 2006 @ 04:54 PM EST
Sherri Berry said
What an awesome testimony G! I was so encouraged to read this message from you. And as I told one of my friends on this past Saturday (who has been through so much lately), God gave you everything you needed to go through what you went through. God does not allow us to go through tests/trials/tribulations which we can not handle. He would not get the GLORY out of that and that is His ultimate purpose! Stay strong, encouraged and blessed! With the attitude you possess, God is going to allow you to reach your destiny and to fulfill your purpose in life God bless ya always.
My dear, you could only imagine how many times I have used what we often talk about to gather my spiritual strength in order to continue on. Often times it is your words to me that helps me to remain focused and keep my eyes on the prize...plus the fact that you are a bomb-diggity creative maestro helps too! :o) Thanks for all you do Sherri!
on Monday, January 23rd, 2006 @ 06:07 PM EST
your demeanor is a blessing to both you and to others. you have truly touched my heart today. i'm so glad you stopped in and i reciprocated the visit... it was to my advantage. thanks greggy!
Well hello Lis! So very glad that I was able to touch someone in a positive way today! Yes it has been awhile since I paused in your garden...I promise to visit more often, ok? Thanks for sharing a vibe with me!
on Monday, January 23rd, 2006 @ 01:05 PM EST
Thank you for this reminder, it reminds me of the lessons my children taught me--my son, who was very ill for years and who we have nearly lost more than once, taught me to treasure every moment and not look to the future for joy but grab it now, and my daughter, born after and so healthy she shone, taught me to laugh.
Kelly...I hope this will not be your last visit to my world, I stopped on your site and browsed your side of the universe a short while ago. What a wonderful loving family you have, this I could tell from your "Flickr photo album". Indeed it is our children who often bring our lives into sharper focus and help us to notice the things in life that we often say we are too busy or hurried to notice...life is all about the smaller overlooked things for this is where we find our greatest joys.
on Monday, January 23rd, 2006 @ 12:55 PM EST
Thank you so much for that inspiring message. I look forward to the days that I visit your site to find a new post. It is always to my benefit. Be blessed.
Thank you Tam...of course you know how much I enjoy the inspiration you write of when you post, so the feeling is definitely mutual. I always enjoy reading of the way you stay strong and handle your business while dealing with various life issues and do it with such a wonderful sense of spiritual worth! You my friend are amazing to me!
on Monday, January 23rd, 2006 @ 08:30 AM EST
Greggy, that is so deep. But we must remember to make each moment count.For tomorrow is not promised. Praise be to the Father, Son and Holy Spirit . Love you always Donna
My dear sister...you already know how tightly I cling to you and the rest of our family, especially now. Love you more! :o)
on Monday, January 23rd, 2006 @ 03:00 AM EST
Wow...that is all I can say.
Thanks Berry...just you saying wow is more than enough for me to give thanks that you took the time to allow me share my thoughts with you. Have a "berry" good day!
on Sunday, January 22nd, 2006 @ 08:15 PM EST
Thanks for the words of faith Greggy. I've been in the situation where I had to ponder what comes next after losing my mother, and then my father. It was then that I got a similar sense of living for today. I truly am grateful for everyday but sometimes I take them for granted. Thanks for reminding me not to. Much love.
Your welcome Honey! I think at one point or another in our lives we all will reach a certain place or time that will force us to give our lives and the way we are living some serious thought. For me I'm just thankful that I was given another breath, another chance to share my joy, indeed another chance to complete my journey here.
on Sunday, January 22nd, 2006 @ 03:33 PM EST
thanks for the pearls of wisdom, i know i'm guilty of the 'worry about it another day' syndrome and i'm going to make a conscious effort to celebrate my life everyday
Why thank you oh creative one! Make a joyful noise as you get your celebrate on too! Shine your light brightly so that others will take notice of what you bring to this world!
on Saturday, January 21st, 2006 @ 08:13 PM EST
i find myself speechless mr. g. in awe of your strength & wisdom. thank god for grace. i too am in deep evaluation of my life. knowing that it is to be valued. thank God for grace & the opportunity to make each day better. thank God for you.
My dear Mechie...indeed thank God for grace, for without it I would not be here today. But also, thank God for people like you who complete me and help to make me whole.