Entry: "What are you worth?"
“What are you worth?” a friend once asked me. Without even missing a beat, I immediately and half-jokingly replied back with some astronomical monetary amount that I had conjured up in my head, as if I could even place a monetary value upon my existence. “No my friend, not how much you are worth…what are you worth?” Somewhat confused I asked him what he meant. He proceeded to explain that a persons worth is not measured by the amount of money or financial value arbitrarily placed upon ones existence and left behind once a person passes on, but by the sum total of what a person brings into this world and brings to fruition during their lifetime. After pondering that statement for a moment I had to admit that he was right. More often than not we tend to view ourselves through a financial prism when we consider our personal value or what we are worth to others. Maybe that comes from us spending the bulk of our adult lives in pursuit of ever larger amounts of money. When you think about, due to the way our society is structured, it’s plain that from early adulthood most of us are programmed to go out into the world and accumulate ever increasing amounts of wealth in order to maintain and in some cases exceed a certain standard of living. This in turn warps our perception of what we are worth, because by the time we become adults we are trained to measure our progress through life in strictly monetary terms. For example, most of us measure our success in terms of how big or costly our house is, how expensive our toys and personal effects are, or even how many fancy sounding degrees we have hanging on the wall. All of these things mean nothing to a person if they have not spent time nurturing long term meaningful relationships with family and friends. This is what my friend meant when he asked me what I was worth and not how much I was worth. In order to check myself from time to time I now often ask myself that very question...what am I worth to the people in my life? Am I someone who they will describe to others as an integral part of their lives, someone who they will view as a treasure to be kept or will they view me as a trinket to be played with for a little bit and then discarded or forgotten because of the way I’ve treated them? I try to live my life so that those whose lives I touch will hopefully remember me for the goodness and joy I try to bring into their lives and at the end of the day not to be left with any bad memories or negative feelings about me as a person. I am blessed to have a good job where I can go to work everyday and also have a certain degree of moral and financial responsibility so that my needs and wants are taken care of without me having to resort to unethical means of conduct in order to achieve them. Do you take the time to consider what you are worth to those who know you, or do you just live out your life never even giving it a second thought as to how your actions may impact others? Are you an irreplaceable treasure or a temporary trinket?
11 brothers and sisters helped me to understand.
on Saturday, September 9th, 2006 @ 08:10 PM EST
This marks my first visit to your site. I stumbled upon it, and I'm happy that I did. This blog entry is very insightful and thoughtful. On a personal note I've never weighd my worth by the monetary or tangible, and subsequently I don't weigh others by their monetary assets. I think some people get confused, and they say to themselves "anyone special would be doing well financially because of their gifts and blessings", but I myself know that this is not always the case. The richest person can also be the cruelest with the least heartfelt contribution to the world around them. I think our true worth is definitely spiritual. Do you truly care, are you empathetic, loving, giving, connected to God, often "selfless". Have you lended a hand, an ear, a shoulder? It's not enough just to stop and smell the roses, it's when you pluck a rose and give it to a friend/stranger surrounded by concrete; that matters. This blog entry shows that your worth can be found outside of the monetary, and that's priceless.
on Thursday, September 7th, 2006 @ 12:30 PM EST
What a wonderful way to bring us back to what life is really about Greg. I also strive to make sure the seeds I plant in all my interpersonal relationships are nourished with love and respect for all so that when 'harvest time" comes, I will reap a bountiful harvest! You are a personal treasure to me!
on Tuesday, September 5th, 2006 @ 06:00 AM EST
Alot of people like to define self worth in relation to how they make others feel, that's cool...but what about how they feel about themselves? How can one please others if one is not pleased with oneself? I think that's what it all boils down to, having confidence and praising yourself, believing that you are somebody, not just to everyone else but to yourself as well. It's a great feeling to give others joy, no doubt, but the better you feel about yourself, the better other people will feel about you because the radiance of your confidence shines bright when you're around others.
on Tuesday, August 29th, 2006 @ 02:11 AM EST
I think you know what I am..
Lost most of the time.
wonderful art on your site here..
Miss you Hope all is well.....
on Monday, August 21st, 2006 @ 11:45 PM EST
That's a great discussion! Seriously, it's all about the fruit and what you sow in your lifetime that results in goodness for other and solid relationships. We can tell a lot about a person if we just look at how they handle these things around them.
Something more fun also comes to mind. One of the first questions people ask in any conversation is "what do you do?" Wouldn't it be fun to see how they respond when we answered with something like "what I do is try to live a fruitful life," instead of, "I'm an artist," or "I'm a business man."
on Monday, August 21st, 2006 @ 09:59 AM EST
Very good post! Also I like your new template.
I guess when I think of someone's worth, the most important thing that comes to mind is where is their Spirituality? To me a successful person is someone who is independent, has a job and can take care of themselves Unfortunately there are too many people out there who are not working, living on their parents or grandparents, have no desire to work, have no desire to help around the house and have become burdensome to those who care about them. If you are Spiritual, everything in your life should come into place and not only will you have self worth, but you will be worthy.
on Friday, August 18th, 2006 @ 06:32 PM EST
Does you worth include making time to do your art? Nurture your creativity? You have to have value to yourself too. Did you plant a garden? How are your senses being stimulated? How many barbecues have you had this summer? Have you sat and slowly ate a piece of fruit, closing your eyes and inhaling as well as tasting? Can you tell I've been reading a book called "Romancing the ordinary" Just bugging you because I like you
Wow Meadow...you have such a wonderful perspective on life! This is why I've always enjoyed your visits here, you always leave me a smile and a pleasant vibe to nurture my soul. Did I plant a garden? Not quite a garden but I do have many wonderful plants in my yard! I've only had one real barbecue so far, but I've went to several others and got my eat on! And yes, whenever I eat delicious fruit I usually take the time to savor it, although I do have a hard time making it last long. Hmmm...bug me whenever you feel like it, k? I keep you safe in my treasure box too!
on Thursday, August 17th, 2006 @ 06:47 PM EST
Birthdate - Deathdate... The dash is your worth! I like to think my worth is like a seed planted in another's heart... what will grow from their experience with me? Joy? Peace? Love? Bitterness? Anger? Hatred? or just relief I'm out of their life? Anyway, your worth to me my brother? Increased joy! Every time I see you I am so glad you are my brother! My worth to others? I hope a smile on their face and warmth in their heart when they think about me! My worth to my children?- Food, Money, Hugs and Kisses...not necessarily in that order! I wouldn't have it any other way!
Love you Goo-Goo Greggy
Ahhh, Tina...my precious "big" sister! I'm sure you realize how close I hold you, yes? Your words and sisterly advice to me as I've rebuilt the foundations of my life have allowed me to "keep the faith" strong and focus on the things I need to be focusing on. You also are a necessary and integral part of my existence and I can't even imagine not having you as my sister!
on Thursday, August 17th, 2006 @ 04:54 PM EST
Greggy, you know your worth to me! I don't even have to tell you. People let you know your worth by the way they treat you.I do know my worth to others. Thanks for loving me unconditionally, as I love you!
Donna, my precious "little" sister! hehehe....
You never have to worry about where I hold you or what value I place upon my relationship with you, k? You are altogether irreplaceable, and my love for you simply cannot be quantified...nuff said, woman! :o)
on Thursday, August 17th, 2006 @ 01:20 PM EST
Wonderful post! You are definitely and irreplaceable treasure. You have touched my life with your words in a positive way. Its amazing how someone you have never met can impact your life. Much peace.
Aww Tam....If you only had a clue as to where I keep you in my thoughts. I am impressed by the way you handle your life experiences using the Word as your guide. Often times when I find myself facing difficult situations or life choices it is quite refreshing to visit your site and see how you handle your business when things get hectic on your end. Your outlook on life is a real inspiration to me my friend. Much love and peace to you and yours also!
on Thursday, August 17th, 2006 @ 11:55 AM EST
I L-O-V-E this posting, especially since it's so relevant to my chain of thought lately. In a different way, I basically wrote a similar post today. I've been wondering my worth to others. Thanks for showing me another way to say it. Kinda eerie, really, that we should be on the same wavelength. ;-)
Why thank you Oh Relevant One! :-)
Rest assured that you are indeed thought of as a true treasure among treasures! No need to worry or contemplate, k? I dig the fact that we often oscillate to the same wavelength, now that is just too cool! Give a brother an amen, k? :o)